II श्रीराम जय राम जय जय राम II

यह जग कोठी काठ की, चहुँ दिसि लागी आग I
भीतर रहै सो जालि मुये, साधू उबरे भाग II

Anger comes from despair or threatening of one's will when his sensory desire is obscured or hindered. In other words, anger is the result of hurt pride for not getting one's own way. Frustrated or unfulfilled desires provoke worry and regrets, followed by fear which causes man to have an inability to face a critical moment. When this fear is disturbed, anger boils in us causing resentment, agitation and envy. Thus anger is the offspring of this unripe egoism. We all have anger in us. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems - problem of violence or aggression, problems at work, problem in personal relationships, problem in mental and physical well-being, and problem in the overall quality of one's life. When our anger or aggression becomes so extreme that we lose self-control, it is said that we are in a rage, like a train running out of control and about to derail. Anytime we feel frustrated, especially when we think someone else is to blame for our loss, is a real potential trigger for outburst of anger. Besides getting our way, we may unconsciously use anger to blame others for our own shortcomings, demeaning others, insulting another person, taking revenge, oppressing others and then justify it to boost our own sagging ego. Furthermore anger can also turn into hostility which is more dangerous because while anger is a temporary response to a particular frustrating situation; hostility is a permanent personality characteristic ruining one's quality of life permanently.

"Kabir says, just like house made of wood easily falls prey to fire, anger like fire leaves lasting scars in the people you love most. In anger the tongue works faster than the mind.So hold it, before you regret the words you say. Just like reflection cannot be seen in boiling water, truth cannot be seen in the state of anger. So one must analyze before finalize. Spoken words can only be forgiven, not forgotten. It is easy to leave angry words unspoken, than to mend a heart those words have broken. 
A Self Realised Person is free from lust, fear and anger, having sublimated these emotions in ecstatic devotion to God. Mind is the only cause of our material bondage or liberation from it. Simply put: The mind attached to the material objects (Maya) becomes the cause of our bondage, and the mind detached from material objects becomes the cause of our attainment of the Divine Status. The mind of a Self Realized Person devoid of desires becomes free of evil passions — lust, anger, greed, emotional attachment, pride and enviousness."

II श्रीराम जय राम जय जय राम II

II श्रीसद्गुरूचरणार्पणमस्तु II