II श्रीराम जय राम जय जय राम II

आपन को सराहिये, पर निन्दिये न कोय I
चढना लम्बा धौहरा, ना जाने क्या होय II

Boasting of self and speaking ill of others behind their back is a very common problem in people's day to day life. People who don’t feel good about themselves feel temporarily better when they judge others negatively. Those who look for flaws and failures of others, is but an attempt to disguise, to focus or even stop thinking about their own faults. A lot of the time, we end up falling into the trap of speaking badly about people without even noticing. But we need to be very careful about this, because when we speak ill of others we reveal much more about ourselves than about the people who are the targets of our gossip. Gossip makes us feel better about ourselves because it’s a relief to remember the fact that other people also have problems. Stop comparing yourself to others. Be humble and remember that no one is better than anyone else. Don’t let your ego and your pride feed your need for comparison and put other people down.

"Kabir says, don't waste time talking badly about others. Dedicate your time, your thoughts and your words to what you can control, which is your own life. Keep your focus on being the best possible version of yourself. Work on your insecurities without comparing yourself to others, and without wasting time on comments and observations about the characteristics and behaviours of others. We must avoid people that are constantly speaking ill of others. Surround yourself with happy, optimistic people who see the positive side of life. Increase your awareness and reflect on the quality of your communication. Think about how you would feel if you heard someone saying negative and hateful words about you. Speaking badly about other people translates into a focus on negativity and living life through a pessimistic and critical perspective. Your most precious and limited resource is time. Don’t waste it getting involved with dramas and arguments. Take care of your integrity and good reputation by not participating in the habit of speaking badly of others. Lack of discretion and humility is what stops us from being a good human being. Discretion means to decipher between wrong and right. Humility is attained by aiming at the highest we know, with the utmost we have, and knowing that we come far short of the ideal. Humility is a form of honesty, and it is this being completely honest with ourselves that forms a firm foundation from which we can take a leap to Self Realisation, the most high. Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less."

II श्रीराम जय राम जय जय राम II

II श्रीसद्गुरूचरणार्पणमस्तु II