II श्रीराम जय राम जय जय राम II
जाके जिभ्या बन्धन नहीं, हृदय में नाहीं सांच I
वाके संग न लागिये, खाले वटिया कांच II
"We all know the pain of regretting words we have spoken: words of pride, dishonesty, envy, gossip, or anger. Although we may try to restore bruised relationships through repentance and forgiveness, spoken words can never be retrieved. Talking too much can often lead us to say more than we should, exaggerating truths, lying, amongst others. It can also antagonize those listening to us. And therefore we must be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry. Many times, we say the right things at the wrong time and the wrong things at the right time. There is a time for everything including when to speak and what to speak, for the lips of the wise disperse knowledge just like sifting it as chaff from the grain. To diffuse conflict or avoid undue confrontation, speak gently. Speak words that are seasoned with grace so as not to stir up anger, for a soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Gossiping is almost like an addiction, it feels good at the moment but afterward, it leaves you empty and drained. Speak words that edify, that encourage, that are filled with love and truth. Never let ugly or hateful words come out from your mouth, but instead let your words become beautiful gifts that encourage others. Flattery is so pervasive in today’s world. We are often encouraged to tell people what they want to hear, even when it is not true. But honesty is the best policy, for a lying tongue hates those it crushes and a flattering mouth works ruin. Say what you mean! Seek the truth, and speak the truth!
The things we spend time on affect how we talk. This includes books we read, movies, the thoughts we entertain, and of course the company we keep. All of these affect us. And therefore Kabir urges us never to keep company of those who let their tongue run wild and who resort to falsehood.
Silence is golden.You don't always have to speak, for a truly wise person uses few words. Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent; with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent.
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